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Saturday
12
August
Funeral Service
12:30 pm
Saturday, August 12, 2023
All Season's Chapel at White Haven Memorial Park
210 Marsh Road
Pittsford, New York, United States
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Trish Hanrahan posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 15, 2023
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family! We hope the memories of your mom carry you through the difficulty of her loss. She sounded like an amazing mom! Best, from the Hanrahans
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Patricia VanKouwenberg posted a condolence
Saturday, August 12, 2023
Dear Family of Dear Pam,
I had the pleasure of working closely with Pam during my final decade of teaching at Penfield High School, 1985-1995, while we were both fortunate to be in the Gifted/Talented Department. She was a source of information and inspiration for me, as I met in the secondary level many of the special children whom she had mentored in elementary school.
I first met Pam many years before at one or more of the acclaimed Penfield Junior High School parties where I was a colleague of the personable math teacher Jack Erwin; thus, she and I had a connection from early on. Then, we interacted on occasion when Pam taught at Scribner and I at Bay Trail Junior High (the time before Middle School became in vogue).
Throughout that span of years, Pam was always an enthusiastic teacher, a loving colleague, a compassionate soul, and a valued citizen of the microcosm that was PCSD.
Your memorial tribute to this wonderful woman would have warmed her soul even more.
God bless you all.
Sincerely,
Pat VanKouwenberg , nee Cullen
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Jennifer Rossi posted a condolence
Thursday, August 10, 2023
The picture you've chosen for her memorial is quintessential Pam. Kind eyes, sense of humor, the tilt of her head as she listens closely to what you have to say, and then leans forward toward you with a laugh and a reply, fully engaged in whatever you are saying, whether it's big news or the minutia of the day. I was Blessed to know Cousin Pam (and to live with her one summer). We would watch "So You Think You Can Dance" in the early 2000s, and talk back to the tv, while she sipped her tonic water at night to help still her legs. And that's Pammy, isn't it? Always vibrant and lively and on the move and on the go, but ALWAYS time to listen, to share a story, to really stop and connect with you. Pam, my mom and I had an informal writing group, and we would share our writings. Spending time with Pam left me feeling good about myself and energized and hopeful about the world. It's hard to put into words how she contributed to my life, and what joy she brought my mother and I. She would work on genealogy with Philipp Fabry (Germany) and my mom (Linda), and they are such amazing researchers. It grew to become a much closer bond, and she and my mom would have sleepovers, connecting over food and stories of their families, as well as researching. Life with Pam always seemed to hold a delightful surprise. She has helped so many people and touched so many lives. Thank you for sharing yourself with us Pam.
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Diane Goodman posted a condolence
Sunday, August 6, 2023
I met Pam only 3 years ago when my husband and I moved into St. John’s. We were next door neighbors and quickly became best friends! The first thing she got me hooked on was doing puzzles together daily! Not only puzzles but introduced me to water color painting and drawing as well! She was a friend to everyone and she left us with so many wonderful memories. I think of her daily and I know she is at peace and her suffering is over! Pam loved her family and had a photo album of years ago! She showed me pictures and told me lots of memories of her life. I wish I had known Pam years ago but I was blessed to have the short time we had! Rest in peace my friend !
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Jennifer posted a condolence
Friday, August 4, 2023
So many wonderful memories of “Aunty Pam”, our Aunty by choice! How could we ever forget our introduction to Aunty Pam and the Erwin family. When we arrived from New Zealand in March 1965, we briefly lived across the street from the Erwin family. . Standing outside in the snow, my sister and I in lined skirts, raincoats,, knee socks and shoes covered with little plastic boots.. our brother in shorts, knee socks and jacket, watched Holly and Jimmy playing in the deep snow fully encased in snowsuits… Jimmy, only 2, looked like a little snow man with his arms sticking out at the sides. Looking out the front window Aunty Pam saw the strangely dressed children and invited us over. We had peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for the very first time. Mum and Pam became instant friends.
Holly and Jimmy got a baby sister 2 weeks after our baby sister was born, further uniting our families as the girls Karyn and Heather have been very close their whole lives.
Memories of trips back and forth between Rochester and Peterborough and time spent at our joint Sandy Lake cottage marked our childhood with many, many happy memories.. I will always be grateful to have Auntie Pam and Uncle Jack in our lives as “family “. They filled a large hole left when we moved away from all our family in New Zealand.
Holly, Jimmy, Heather, and all the family, I am praying that all the wonderful memories that you have of your mom/ grandma, are a great comfort to you. Xoxo
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Betty Umoff posted a condolence
Friday, August 4, 2023
Pam and I became fast friends when I began working at St. John's Meadows. We shared a love of music(playing piano together), art ( we "zentangled" every time I was there) and just an incredible similarity in our sense of humor. I looked forward to seeing her whenever I was working. She shared her love of family, and her history with me.
I will cherish the memory of our incredible times together. She was strong, opinionated, sensitive, kind and the type of woman everyone should have the privilege of knowing.
Rest in Peace my friend.
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Lance Compa posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 2, 2023
Aunt Pam, as we fondly knew her, and husband Jack were good friends of our parents, Art Compa and Anne DiFelice. Jack went to high school with them at East Rochester High. Later, when Pam and Jack married, they were part of a close circle of our parents’ friends, and they took a keen interest in us kids all the time we were growing up, and beyond.
Jack was a regular in our father’s weekly bridge game, with Nick Naccarella and Nick Verzella (this was ER, remember – lots of Italian-Americans). Pam and our mother became especially close, enjoying good times together and comforting and strengthening each other in times of difficulty.
When we had our own kids, visiting Pam and Jack at the house on Alpine Drive was always special. When our kids were little, they generously let us take vacations at the cottage on Sandy Lake in Ontario.
Lance had a special opportunity to reconnect with Pam when he came home in 1969 and taught school for a year after finishing college. He decided to take up piano lessons again, after dropping piano when he started high school. Pam was a brilliant piano player and teacher, and she helped Lance recapture a love for the piano.
Pam lit up every room she ever walked into. She was always bright, lively, curious, interesting, and caring. We will miss her, but treasure the memories of our connections through the years.
Our condolences to Holly, Jimmy and Heather and their families
The Compa siblings:
Lance
Larry
Tom
Mary Anne
John
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Alison posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 1, 2023
Our family met ‘Aunty Pam’ in March 1965 when we emigrated to North America. We were fish out of water and she quickly became mum’s best friend and our “auntie/second mother’. When we moved to Canada our families spent summer vacations together- first at a cottage rental and then at a jointly owned … shack?! Initially we had no running water and an outhouse. It was kid heaven … made in large part thanks to Pam and my willing mum with their seven kids. They decorated on a shoestring budget (magazine photos make interesting wallpaper!), stacked us into army cots and fed us at a picnic table. Although we were organized, with chore lists, we were allowed to run free over a large area.
While Mum and Aunty Pam were ‘stalking the wild asparagus’ we roamed, paddled, swam and sailed to our hearts content. No kid could ask for a better life and there’s no question that that slice of heaven was made possible because of Pam (and Jack). I am forever grateful!
Thank you Aunty Pam for being my second/summer mother ❤️
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James Mewett posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 1, 2023
When my family arrived in Rochester from New Zealand in 1965, fate, and more than a little good luck introduced my family to the Erwins. In time, Pam became Aunty Pam, and Jack, Uncle Jack. These were not merely honorifics, because on a continent where we had no relatives, the Erwins became our extended family, even after we left the US for Canada. Pam and Jo, fast friends and forces of nature found and cultivated magic on Sandy Lake. That magic shaped us all and still binds us. So my goodbye is to Aunty Pam, with thanks for the magic.
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Laura Hunsberger posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 1, 2023
Having grown up two doors down from the Erwin family, we spent years using each others yards for kick the can, we trick or treated together and made snow forts. The memory that has stayed with me for decades is the warning to always prick your potatoes before baking them in the oven. The story was that Pam and Jack had friends over for dinner and were interrupted by what probably sounded like gunshots, as the potatoes exploded in the oven!
Pam was like a second mom to many of us - always kind, caring and greeting us with a smile. Sending love to the whole family…
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Steve Newcomb posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 1, 2023
Pam Erwin was my former Mother in Law. She was highly intelligent, had a great sense of humor and treated me like her own son. Sandy Lake, Flower Days at the Public Market when her and I laughed til it hurt, followed by breakfast at a diner. Dem were the days. I love you Pam.
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Cindy Jackman posted a condolence
Monday, July 31, 2023
I have so many wonderful memories of Pam, “Mrs. Erwin” to me. My best childhood friend was her daughter, Holly, and I was fortunate to spend many happy times at the Erwin house, becoming friends with Jim and Heather, too. I remember Mrs. Erwin’s beautiful piano playing, and her wonderful laugh and easy-going manner. She always welcomed me in a loving way. Meals were so much fun at her house; Mrs. Erwin made steamed artichokes one time, with melted butter; it was a first for me, and they were delicious. She also made the best, most delicious chocolate sauce that I have ever tasted! It was so sugary and chocolatey, and I vividly remember how yummy it was to this very day. Her kitchen was a place where she could share her love. I was also so fortunate to be invited to the Erwin’s cottage at Sandy Lake. So many happy memories of that time, being immersed in nature, boating, trying water skiing, sunning on the island, looking for bears…but the thing that always stayed with me is the great love she had for her family and friends, the hugs she would give, the advice she would offer, the way she always tried to help others, and that radiant smile. She was a little dynamo, like the Little Engine That Could, full of positive energy and light. My heart goes out to the whole family, and all those who knew and loved her.
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Mike and Sue Weidner posted a condolence
Monday, July 31, 2023
My favorite memory of Pam is watching a Bills game with her. She came to our house one Sunday in full Bill's regalia!! She cheered throughout the whole game, sitting on the edge of her seat. What a fan!! May She rest in peace. Hugs and prayers to all of the family.
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Laurie Jensen Hoppe posted a condolence
Monday, July 31, 2023
Pam was a very special friend that I met in and loved since 1967.
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Tio Parker posted a condolence
Thursday, July 27, 2023
I will remember your mom’s beautiful smile. I’m so happy to have met her and know she had a beautiful and purposeful life. I hope peace and comfort find you. She left a wonderful legacy. Tio & Brian Parker
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